Language switcher
In each and every human society, the freedom of speech and expression has always been and always be a need and right of each and every human being. That also means that honesty and veracity towards oneself and others have always been very challenging.
As we are growing and developing, grows and develops our vulnerability.
It is not only about which kind of individuals we are- and we are little individuals since very early age- but it is also about the mirror of our entire society. From the paren’t home up to this day.
As we grow we become more aware of manipulation, permanent persuasion, mind control, exaggeration. These has always been present whether within a smaller groups or a larger society.
Thus, extreme fears and guilt feelings are becoming a huge obstacle for both personal and collective evolution since everything is interconnected. The selfish actions of people are like a mirror. The selfish move of one person will close the heart of another, this will destroy trust, and trust is base for love. Absence of trust is the reason why there is very little reflexion between people, if any.
Beside that, as in many other issues, the climate, the patterns of the society, its opulence and the structure of language play a big role in relationships and interpersonal communication.
In spite of all there are people who talk straight from the heart. In the company of these people we all feel good and we all love that nice feeling because it is simple and only simplicity can bring serenity and tremendous feeling of inner freedom.
Those who follow their hearts.
These people are very serene, warm and earthy people. They are not loud.
People who talk from the heart, even if other laugh or sneer at them, are very relaxed people and literally very warm people. If you touch and embrace them you will convince yourself easily.
It is a challenge but also it is very useful to be gentle, to talk and to act from the heart because our heart is very powerful and it is composed of the very powerful vibrations.
By giving.
Sharing your own heart and its power with others, right from the heart, not out of illusion (illusions about own self. People sometimes call themselves “transformed hearts.” These are dangerous illusions.)
What you put in, it comes out. Honesty always finds its path.
Here I want to share with you one story from my private life.
The first contact of communication in most societies will be speaking of the weather conditions. I am affronted with the same thing over and over again. Where ever you live, your neighbors will always continue talking about the weather. In winter they will complain and talk about cold, in summer you will say hello to them and they will answer “it is warm”. The conversation will then go on with combinations of questions like why it so cold in July or why it is so warm in February.
Especially in that case it is better not to get into a conversation because of plenty difficult combinations.
Even though I wish to hear something new, their very own thoughts, very personal opinion, something about themselves, about their own feelings, their soul, I always affront the same approach over and over again, how cool and how warm it is.
Answering that it is very normal that it is cold in February and warm in July over and over again, nothing else, as you may guess, I have developed a whole brigade of enemies around me.
One is always closer to like-minded one.
(Much more serious story about my own experience of freedom of speech and about honesty and truth you can read here .)
When I came to Germany, talking what I feel and think and also laugh (not laugh at, the difference between these two is a whole universe) just like everywhere else, people often asked do I have some psychological problems.
We people are rude, we can miss-use other’s sincerity easy. And also, we can put a mask on our face noisily proclaiming that we are honest when we are not. The main reason for that lies in very little knowledge about our own values. One can recognize other’s values only if one has own.
People repeat always the same dry stories over and over again, probably thinking that they will look less smart if they don’t. But if you speak from the heart and don’t make cloned speech as everyone else around does, you will maybe be less liked in the society but more respected. Those who will not like you because you don’t talk how they expect you to talk, don’t love themselves either.
Repeating the same exhausting stories will become a habit of your mind. Man can easily lose himself in the ocean of senselessness.
You will sooner or later also be an old man. Your task is to respect yourself and change yourself now, in order not to become a boring, exhausting old man.
People whose hearts are closed are closed people. People who do not show their feelings are otherwise called cold people. It is very hard for them to change themselves, as usually it is about people who are very deep rooted in own patterns of thoughts, behavior, prejudice, manners and plasticity of own brain.
Do not try to change an old brain, change yours.
Honesty is challenging.
How?
Accept your self as you are, a human being whom is given the nicest gift, speech from the heart.
The use of that gift is eudemonic. It leads to fulfilled and serene life.
Honesty pays off.
Nevertheless, honest speech should be taken under control, otherwise it can easily become just senseless screaming and yelling around.
Understand that the only constant is change.
Each animal, plant, each human cell, tissue, muscle, organ, bone goes through changes, hour after hour, day by day, year by year. Our bones are developing up to twenty six years of age, some are accomplished years later. The intelligence is developing up to thirty years and later, this depend on your luck and whom you are living with. You may be living surrounded with deadly boring, not inspiring people but this is not the reason to be rude. In contrary, talk and act from the heart and your all your intelligence will grow.
The consciousness changes. We should accept this truth and to allow us to flow with it and not perpetually trying to stop it making the things in life unnecessary complicated.
In order to maintain the harmony and to prevent the cruelty, it is sometimes better to keep quiet and to withdraw from discussions.
I used to make a fool of myself and without words leave friends that I would love, I will not lie to you if I told you that I even adored them, when I would feel that some strange cloud was trapping in their heads and hearts usually coming from their cloudy relationships. A woman’s brain can easily go crazy for good sex. Don’t give your brain so easily.
Beside that, tongue can cut more heads than sword, they say.
Jorge Luis Borges gave another tip:
“Don’t talk unless you can improve the silence.”
In the language of Yoga psychology honesty is called Satya.
Saying that honesty and to speak from the heart is not something to be taught or learnt, sold or bought but something that each and every heart was born with.